Warning: This article discusses family harm and may be upsetting.
A protection order was supposed to keep a woman safe.
Instead, a judge said it proved “no better than a piece of soiled toilet paper” as her partner hunted her down, beat her, threatened her life and raped her during a sustained attack that left her fearing she would die.
Now the Northland man has been jailed in the Whangārei District Court for nine years after being convicted of multiple violent offences, including rape, assault and threatening to kill.
On the day of his trial in March, he pleaded guilty to two charges of driving while suspended, breach of a protection order and three assaults on a person in a family relationship.
He took the remaining charges to trial and, the next day, a jury found him guilty.
The victim, his partner, gave a video-recorded interview to police shortly after the 2024 incident.
Judge John McDonald said she provided a clear account of the man’s actions, understood she was required to tell the truth, and was aware she could face prosecution if she lied deliberately.
But on the second day of the trial, her evidence took a turn.
“She was now saying that everything she said in her evidential interview … was just a pack of lies,” Judge McDonald said.
“Apart from telling the truth about her age, her name, and the number of children she had and their names, everything else was untrue.
“You never assaulted her, you never supplied her with drugs, you never raped her. She painted you as a loving, gentle giant of a man who did everything that you could for her, and that she was the one that was violent, she was the one that was disrespectful, she was the one who was addicted to methamphetamine, she was the one who wouldn’t look after her children.”
Judge McDonald said he allowed the Crown to cross-examine her and, although she accepted some events, she continued to deny the vast majority.
Both the jury and judge rejected her evidence and found the man guilty of the charges.
In May 2024, the man was driving with his partner when police stopped him in Kaikohe and issued a three-month suspension for driving with excessive demerit points.
His partner then got into the driver’s seat and drove off before they switched seats again.
Annoyed at losing his licence, he punched the woman in the face and began verbally abusing her and acting in a paranoid manner.
The judge said she asked him to take her home, but he refused. She left the vehicle and began running down the road.
He followed her and, out of fear, she got back in the car.
When he arrived at an address, he got out of the car, blamed her and punched her several times in the head.
“You told her to get out of the ute, to get on the back and bounce up and down on the tray,” the judge said.
“She said she wouldn’t do that because she was concerned she may be injured. You yelled at her and, again out of fear, she did that.”
She continued to ask him to take her home, but he refused.
They arrived at an address in Waimate North and he told her that, if she wanted to go home, she had to walk.
‘No one will have you’
As she put on her shoes to leave, he assaulted her with a wooden bat, knocking her unconscious.
When she came to, she tried to run away, but he grabbed her and continued to assault her.
“She thought she was going to die,” the judge said. “She told you that if you keep punching her in the way that you were, you’re going to kill her. Your response to that was, ‘Oh well then, no one will have you.'”
He then told her to make the bed and get in, saying, “Look, you’ve ruined my day, so I’m going to go about ruining yours,” Judge McDonald said.
He then said, “I always get what I want”, before raping her.
After the rape, he fell asleep and the woman managed to escape.
Judge McDonald said she had a protection order in place.
“All that was just a piece of paper, no better than a piece of soiled toilet paper against you.
“It should have stopped you. It was worthless so far as protecting her was concerned.”
Where to get help:
- Need to Talk? Free call or text 1737 any time to speak to a trained counsellor, for any reason
- Lifeline: 0800 543 354 or text HELP to 4357
- Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865 / 0508 TAUTOKO. This is a service for people who may be thinking about suicide, or those who are concerned about family or friends
- Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 or text 4202
- Samaritans: 0800 726 666
- Youthline: 0800 376 633 or text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz
- What’s Up: 0800 WHATSUP / 0800 9428 787. This is free counselling for 5 to 19-year-olds
- Asian Family Services: 0800 862 342 or text 832. Languages spoken: Mandarin, Cantonese, Korean, Vietnamese, Thai, Japanese, Hindi, and English.
- Victim Support 0800 842 846.
- Rural Support Trust Helpline: 0800 787 254
- Healthline: 0800 611 116
- Rainbow Youth: (09) 376 4155
- OUTLine: 0800 688 5463
- Aoake te Rā bereaved by suicide service: or call 0800 000 053
If it is an emergency and you feel like you or someone else is at risk, call 111.
Sexual Violence
Family Violence
- Women’s Refuge: 0800 733 843.
- It’s Not OK 0800 456 450.
- Shine: 0508 744 633.
- Victim Support: 0800 842 846.
- HELP Call 24/7 (Auckland): 09 623 1700, (Wellington): 04 801 6655.
- The National Network of Family Violence Services NZ has information on specialist family violence agencies.
* This story originally appeared in the New Zealand Herald.
Source: RNZ